I’m still waiting for

I'm still waiting for you to be the one I'm waiting for

I’m still waiting for
You to be the one I’m waiting for

Relient K - "The One I'm Waiting For"

I was listening to Relient K in my car on the way to work today for the first time in a long time when I found myself rocking out to this song. This song held a lot of meaning for me many years ago, and is about women (in general), but this line caught my ear more than it ever has before. It caught me in a way where I wasn't applying it to a girl in particular, but thinking more along the lines of "I think this is how a lot of people see God."

Lots of people have this attitude towards someone they are dating or wanting to marry. "I just want you to be like the person I see you as in my mind." I think this is the least mature way to approach a relationship. People are who they are, and generally do no change. Personally, do I want to become better? Yes. I want to be the best version of me on a day to day basis, and be a very consistent person. I know my faults and my weaknesses, and I try to make myself better in areas I know I am weak. When I look at my amazing wife, I don't try to make her what I want her to be, I try and encourage her to follow her dreams, and develop into the person she sees herself being. It is literally the most exciting thing about my life, watching my wife grow into this more amazing person every day.

This is the same way that we must approach our relationship with God. God is who He is, and isn't going to change. That, however, does not mean we do not have to change when we get to know Him. Getting to know God and be closer with Him means that you must change, you must abandon parts of your former self so that you can allow Him to make you the best version of yourself in His eyes. If you aren't wanting to make yourself better in His eyes, then you are not fulfilling the true purpose of your life.

If you want to attract a certain kind of partner, or friend, usually you must be a certain way. Who you are attracts certain kinds of people to you. If you want to attract a different kind of friend than you usually do, you must go through a change. When you make the choice to follow God, you have to make a change (or many changes) in your life in order to attract God to you. While He may love everyone, that does not mean that he approves of everyone

A lot of people have an attitude towards God (or religion, in general) that is exactly the line from this song. They want God to be who they see Him being in their eyes, not how He is. People want religion to line up with their pre-conceived notions or beliefs. If there is one thing I have learned in my young age, there is no such ability. God is not who we make Him out to be, but He is what He has always been.

The sign of a mature Christian is not how much they worship, or how outspoken they are. The sign of a mature Christian is how much they understand that God is not who they want Him to be, and live their life according to that understanding.